I keep mentioning to you through my books and blogs the importance of finding your Soulmate, Your-One-and Only, Your Half apple… etc..
Some of you do not listen to me and you keep making the same or related mistakes. Others may listen but do not follow my formula and the result is at best a relationship that last for a few months or a year and then goes into oblivion. All this will leave dust in its wake and the people involved (both of them) will accumulate more distrust in their minds for future relationships, or enough distrust to completely want to stop relating to future partners.
Trust is very important, and without trust life becomes hard and difficult.
I hurt my foot and didn’t want to get to a doctor because I did not like one doctor in the past, I did not pursue to find a doctor of my choice and then I felt distrust for doctors in general. Victoria insisted that I should go to a doctor to x-ray my foot so I got into the motion of finding a doctor of my choice. So, after screening prospects (doctors) and dealing with the ones that accepted my insurance etc.. I decided to visit the one that I thought may be to my idea of a healer.
I was reluctant at first but the lady at the reception desk was very nice, professional and attentive. The lady taking my blood pressure and getting my information in the computer was also very professional and knowledgeable. The lady at the x-ray machine was so nice and professional that I end up giving her my formula for free. And the doctor looking at my x-rays was kind enough to explain to me about blood pressure and symptoms that I should watch out at my age.
In short I am telling you that my faith on doctors has return and although I will not trust everyone that I come in contact with, I will be open minded enough to let them show their colors to me.
It is the same in relationships, you should be open enough to let some candidates to show their colors to you, and you should be brave enough to give them the benefit of the doubt, rather than closing yourself and not taking advantage of the opportunity.
In short the answer to most of our dilemmas and specially about finding your Soulmate is, pursue, pursue, pursue…. Until you get what you need and not what you want.