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Duende and the Latin Lover

A Latin lover is a man that has been raised in the shores of “Mare Nostrum” and has “Duende” (not everybody has Duende). This man is much more than Casanova or Don Juan, for unlike those two, the Latin lover cares about women’s emotions of love and he also cares about his own emotions and integrity. That is why he will not have more than one woman’s love at the time. His emotional department has to be clean and with purpose for him to be able to create the romance.
This is the reason for his fame as the best lover in the whole world. And the reason for his romantic nature is the developing of his "Duende”.
Duende is that attractive aura that everyone has buried in the depth of their souls. It seeks its own development but only comes out to the surface by the touch of his passion.

And how to develop this passion?

It is the belief in which you know, I can do it.

And when you have Duende, then you create black sounds. “Black sounds” are not silences. “Black sounds" are the mystery, the roots fastened in the mire that we all know and we all ignore. It is the fertile silt that gives us the very substance of art.

A cultured man once said, “All that has black sounds has Duende;” and there is no greater truth.

“Black sounds,” said that man of the Spanish people, who defined Duende while speaking of Paganini:

“A mysterious power which everyone senses and no philosopher can explain.”

In the love department, the present world misses out greatly for lack of romance.

But not everybody can understand romance, especially men.

Most men associate romance to sex and make of it a mundane experience.

Romance is the domain of women. They are romantic and lovable by their own nature, and that is why they should seek the emotion of love and the melody of its music.

This is accomplished by appreciating the quality of their man regardless of his title, also the good intentions he has towards you. 

Romance starts with writing to each other (texting, email etc.)

As you do so, the sensitivity of the poet in him will be uncovered, his Duende will start to surface and you will reward him by inspiring him to send you more dialogue.

You do not date until you are sure he is the one, since you are able to communicate, since he brings excitement, since you sense he has something farther for you to explore.

The world has come to a point where everybody is so clever that they completely forgot what is important in life.

And since we do not follow the right principles, we go home empty and starving for love. When the starvation and thirst gets to be overbearing we drink on muddy waters and eat food from dark caves. The result is hurt, so we build barriers for protection. These barriers obstruct our vision and do not let the sunshine in. That is why we are so ignorant with all this knowledge that we have.

So, let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. And let sex take the back burner, and not be in our thoughts at this present moment.

For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love, but a passing fancy leaving dust in its mist.




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7 Responses to Duende and the Latin Lover

  1. Cristine April 11, 2012 at 11:53 am #

    nice post, i like so much, it’s the best information for me.

  2. Élias April 13, 2012 at 12:12 am #

    Recently came across your article and have been reading along. I want to express my admiration of your writing skill. great to know that!

  3. Vincent Sylvan April 14, 2012 at 10:15 am #

    Thank you Cristine, I hope to bring clarity in important subjects.

  4. Vincent Sylvan April 14, 2012 at 10:18 am #

    Thank you Elias, I think my “Duende” is developing nicely as a writer.

  5. Penny April 14, 2012 at 11:44 pm #

    Wonder advise for women.  Love the analogies.  And lets hope that all men find their "Duende"!

  6. Brigite April 17, 2012 at 4:15 pm #

    thanks for sharing such a great article. i appreciate the post. keep posting more.

  7. Vincent Sylvan April 17, 2012 at 10:31 pm #

    It is not that easy Penny, the woman has to trigger the man to get his “Duende” to the surface. Remember, women are the creators of love.

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